Dating after divorce women over 40
We all have fulfilling careers, lots of good friends and interesting lives.We waited a long time to focus on settling down, and now we’re facing a somewhat distressing fact of life: Once you’re over 40, there is a diminished pool of men to choose from. I just have to save my ladies some time and tell the unvarnished truth.We've had it all: careers, marriage, kids, divorce. So, as my mother always says, about everything: "What could be bad?I was contacted by men as young as 24 and on into the early 60s... Trust your intuition and you will find someone to love and someone to love you. Wow, this perspective of over 40 dating would be lovely if we all were in the prime position that you describe, but the truth is that when I divorced I was in a soul-sucking job that I hated (and still have), had very few friends, was in the worst physical shape of my life, and was very concerned about my adolescent son. I'm 61, and I found it very hard to get dates in my 40s. I was never a great dater, and most women I approached had no interest.So Pamela you all have successful careers, lives even your kids have become "far better than anyone could expect". Still, the power that I gained from finally ending a long, verbally abusive relationship made me feel optimistic, if not exactly confident, about going out there into the dating scene. Online dating is mostly good for women not so for men.I also get a lot of attention from men in their 30's.Very rarely does a man my age ask me out or even flirt with me. I don't know the answer.it does help to know that you aren't alone. I would love to date for friendship, but heterosexual men see that as a way of playing them without interest in genuine relationships (translation: sex). The dating pool for both sexes over 40 is very marginal I've found.
To be a parent means to realize that what want now means nothing at all. If you’ve never had kids, you don’t understand that.
What's even worse is I'm lesbian, but that's another story.
Its just odd I don't really come across any other 40 year olds, women or men, despite being a very active person who belongs to hobby and social groups, goes to the gym daily.
Yet I never even see another single person my age to not only date, but just for friendship. Men my age lie about their age to attract younger women...women my age lie about their age to attract men their own age.
Its just very awkward and somewhat insulting to be approached only by those old enough to be your parents or young enough to be your child. I too get attention from men in their late 60's and early 70's.
Had a few dates with a man who was 45, never married, no kids. Or just because they are big fat selfish douche bags.